CHAPTER 16: SEPARATION FROM
PARENTS: CHILDREN IN CRECHES AND ORPHANAGES
16.1 SEPARATION FROM PARENTS
- Meaning: Separation
from parents refers to the physical and emotional distance created when a
child is removed from the primary caregivers (usually parents) to whom
they are attached. This can be short-term (daily, due to work) or
long-term (due to institutionalization, migration, or family crisis).
- A
Double-Edged Sword:
- Protective
Benefit: In cases of abuse, neglect, or extreme poverty,
separation can provide immediate safety, nutrition, and care that
the child's home cannot.
- Developmental
Risk: For a securely attached child, separation disrupts the
primary source of emotional security, love, and identity,
which can negatively impact development.
Impact of Prolonged/Poorly Managed Separation on
Children:
- Emotional
& Psychological:
- Attachment
Disorders: Inability to form deep, trusting relationships.
- Anxiety
& Depression: Chronic fear, sadness, and withdrawal.
- Low
Self-Esteem: Feeling abandoned and unworthy of love.
- Grief
Cycle: Children experience shock, anger, bargaining, sadness,
and confusion, though not in a linear order.
- Behavioural:
- Regressive
Behaviours: Bed-wetting, thumb-sucking, excessive crying.
- Aggression
or Withdrawal: Lashing out or becoming extremely quiet and
detached.
- Difficulty
with Discipline: May show defiance or, conversely, excessive
compliance out of fear.
- Social
& Cognitive:
- Social
Skill Deficits: Trouble sharing, taking turns, or reading social
cues.
- Language
& Cognitive Delays: Reduced one-on-one interaction can slow
language acquisition and cognitive stimulation.
- Moral
Confusion: May struggle to internalize values without consistent
parental modelling.
For the Teacher: A child showing sudden
behavioural changes, withdrawal, or declining performance may be struggling
with separation stress (e.g., a parent migrating for work, family illness).
Your sensitive observation, a listening ear, and a predictable, caring
classroom routine become a crucial anchor of stability.
16.2 CHILDREN IN CRECHES
16.2.1 Meaning of Crèche
A crèche (or daycare center) is an institution that
provides supervised care and early learning opportunities for infants
and young children during the day while their parents are at work or
otherwise occupied. It is a modern solution, especially in nuclear families and
urban settings.
16.2.2 Types of Crèches
- Private
Daycare Chains: Franchised centres with standardized
infrastructure and curriculum. (e.g., national branded preschool chains).
- Stand-Alone
Private Nurseries: Independently run, often in residential areas.
Quality varies greatly.
- Home-Based
Crèches: Run by an individual (often a mother) from her own home.
Smaller, more informal, but less regulated.
- Workplace
Crèches: Provided by employers (factories, offices, hospitals)
on-site. Highly beneficial but still rare in India.
- Anganwadi
Centres (Govt. of India): While primarily for nutrition and
preschool education, they also serve as a form of community-based daycare,
especially in rural and low-income areas.
16.2.3 Effects of Crèches on Child Development
The impact is not uniform; it depends critically on
the QUALITY of the crèche and the age and temperament of the
child.
Potential NEGATIVE Effects (in Low-Quality Settings):
- Emotional
Insecurity: If staff are cold, overworked, or inconsistent, the
child may fail to form a secure secondary attachment, leading to chronic
stress.
- Limited
Individual Attention: In high child-to-caregiver ratios, a
child’s specific needs, questions, or moments of distress may go
unnoticed.
- Behavioural
Issues: Exposure to aggression from other children without
skilled intervention can lead to learned aggression or anxiety.
- Health
Concerns: Higher exposure to common infections in group settings.
- Parent-Child
Bond Weakening: If tired parents have little quality time in the
evenings, the primary bond can be strained.
Potential POSITIVE Effects (in High-Quality Settings):
- Social
Skill Acceleration: Learns to share, cooperate, negotiate, and
make friends in a peer group setting.
- Cognitive
Stimulation: Access to structured play, books, puzzles, and
activities that may not be available at home.
- Routine
& Independence: Learns to adapt to a structured schedule,
manage small tasks (putting away toys), and build confidence away from
parents.
- School
Readiness: Smooths the transition to formal schooling by
familiarizing the child with a group learning environment.
- Support
for Working Parents: Enables parents, especially mothers, to
pursue careers, contributing to family well-being and providing positive
role models.
Teacher's Insight: In your Grade 1 class, you
will see children with varied crèche experiences. Some will be socially
confident and used to routines. Others may be more clingy or struggle with
sharing. Differentiate your welcome and settling-in process accordingly.
16.3 CHILDREN IN ORPHANAGES (CHILD CARE INSTITUTIONS)
16.3.1 Meaning of Orphanage
An orphanage or Child Care Institution (CCI) is a long-term
residential facility for children who have lost both parents, been
abandoned, or removed from families deemed unfit due to extreme poverty, abuse,
or disability. The goal is to provide shelter, food, education, and care in
loco parentis (in place of parents).
16.3.2 Effects of Institutionalization on Development
While providing for basic physical needs, traditional,
large-scale institutions often struggle to meet core emotional and
developmental needs, leading to well-documented risks:
- Attachment
Trauma: The most severe impact. Care is often rotational
and impersonal. A child may have multiple caregivers, preventing the
formation of a deep, lasting attachment figure essential for healthy brain
development.
- Emotional
& Behavioural Problems: High rates of Reactive
Attachment Disorder (RAD), anxiety, depression, and self-harm.
Behaviour can be indiscriminately friendly or deeply withdrawn.
- Developmental
Delays: Despite formal schooling, children may show cognitive
and language delays due to lack of responsive, one-on-one
interaction and enrichment.
- Social
Challenges: Relationships may be superficial or transactional.
They may struggle with understanding family roles, boundaries, and
long-term commitments.
- Identity
& Self-Concept Issues: Questions like "Who am I?"
and "Where do I belong?" can cause profound distress, affecting
motivation and future planning.
- Institutionalised
Behaviour: May develop overly rigid habits, lack of initiative,
or a deep-seated fear of the outside world ("institutionalised
personality").
The Positive Shift & Alternatives:
Recognizing these harms, modern child protection policy in India (JJ Act, 2015)
emphasizes:
- Family-Based
Care: Foster care and adoption are
prioritized as they provide a family environment.
- Small
Group Homes: Moving from large dormitories to small, family-like
homes with consistent "house parents."
- Focus
on Reintegration: Wherever safe, working to reunite the child
with their biological family after support.
- Aftercare: Supporting
youth as they transition out of care at 18 years.
The Teacher's Pivotal Role:
A teacher is often the most consistent, invested adult in an institutionalized
child's life outside the care home. You can be a powerful agent of
change by:
- Providing
Unconditional Positive Regard: See and value the child beyond
their "orphan" label. Celebrate their individuality.
- Being
a Secure Base: Be consistently warm, predictable, and reliable.
Your classroom can be their sanctuary of stability.
- Advocating
for Them: Notice potential (artistic, academic, athletic) and
advocate for opportunities (scholarships, competitions, extracurricular
activities).
- Sensitive
Life Skills Education: Teach about emotions, relationships, and
practical skills with extra compassion and clarity.
- Collaborating
with Caregivers: Work with the institution's staff to share
insights and ensure a consistent approach to the child's education and
well-being.
Conclusion: Separation from parents places
children on a challenging developmental path. High-quality crèches can
supplement family care effectively, while traditional institutional
care poses significant risks, necessitating a shift towards
family-like environments. As a teacher, your empathy, awareness, and steadfast
support are critical lifelines for these children, helping them build
resilience and hope for the future.
EXERCISE
Q1. What is meant by separation from parents?
Introduction:
The bond between a child and their parent is the foundational relationship for
human development. Separation from parents refers to the disruption of this
primary bond, a situation with profound implications for a child's emotional,
social, and cognitive growth. It is a critical concept for educators to
understand, as its effects directly manifest in the classroom.
Meaning and Explanation:
Separation from parents means the physical and emotional distance created when
a child is removed from the consistent care of their primary attachment
figures. This separation can be:
- Temporary
and Periodic: Such as daily separation when parents go to work
and the child attends a crèche or school.
- Long-Term
or Permanent: As in cases of parental death, abandonment, removal
by child protection services, or institutionalization in orphanages.
The core of the meaning lies not just in physical absence,
but in the loss of the secure base that parents provide—the
source of safety, comfort, identity, and guided exploration of the world. The
impact is determined by:
- The child's
age and attachment security before separation.
- The reason
for separation (voluntary work vs. traumatic abandonment).
- The quality
of alternative care received.
Conclusion:
Therefore, separation is not a single event but a process that alters a child's
world. It can range from a manageable stressor within a loving family framework
to a devastating trauma that threatens core development. Educators must
approach children experiencing separation with heightened sensitivity,
recognizing that behaviour is often a communication of this underlying stress.
Q2. What are crèches? What are its types?
Introduction:
In the context of changing family structures and increasing workforce
participation, especially of women, crèches have become a significant social
institution in early childhood. Understanding their nature and variety is
essential for educators who often receive children after their crèche
experience.
Meaning of Crèches:
A crèche, also known as a daycare center, is a supervised facility that
provides care, protection, and early learning stimulation to infants and young
children (typically from 6 months to 6 years) during daytime hours when their
parents or primary caregivers are unavailable, usually due to employment. It
serves as a supplementary care arrangement, bridging the gap between home and
formal schooling.
Types of Crèches:
- Private
Franchise Daycare Centers: These are part of organized chains
(e.g., Kidzee, EuroKids). They offer standardized infrastructure, a
structured curriculum, and trained staff, but can be expensive.
- Independent
Private Nurseries: Run by individuals or small organizations in
local communities. Their quality and philosophy vary widely based on the
owner's vision and resources.
- Home-Based
Crèches: Operated by a caregiver (often a mother herself) from
her residence. They are small-scale, offer a homely environment, but are
less regulated and may lack formal educational programming.
- Workplace
Crèches: Established within the premises of an organization
(corporate offices, factories, hospitals) for the benefit of its
employees. This is the most parent-friendly model but remains scarce in
India.
- Anganwadi
Centres (Government-Sponsored): While their primary mandate is
nutrition, health, and preschool education for disadvantaged communities,
they effectively function as community crèches, especially in rural areas.
Conclusion:
Crèches represent society's institutional response to the need for non-familial
childcare. The type of crèche a child attends significantly influences their
early experiences, preparing them in different ways for the more formal
environment of primary school. A teacher's awareness of this background can
inform their understanding of a new student's social readiness and learning
habits.
Q3. What effect does a crèche have on a child’s
development? Explain.
Introduction:
The crèche experience is a child's first major foray into the social world
outside the family. Its influence on development is significant and
multifaceted, acting as a double-edged sword where outcomes are predominantly
determined by the quality of care rather than attendance
alone.
Effects on Development:
The impact can be analyzed across developmental domains:
A. Potential Positive Effects (in High-Quality Crèches):
- Social-Emotional
Development: Provides a rich environment for learning cooperation,
sharing, empathy, and conflict resolution with peers. Builds
confidence and independence.
- Cognitive
and Language Development: Exposure to structured activities,
stories, songs, and conversations with caregivers and peers can accelerate
language acquisition and stimulate cognitive skills like
problem-solving and pre-literacy/numeracy.
- Routine
and Adaptability: Learns to function within a structured
schedule, easing the future transition to formal schooling. Develops
adaptability.
- Physical
Development: Access to structured play, outdoor activities, and
toys promotes gross and fine motor skill development.
B. Potential Negative Effects (in Low-Quality Crèches):
- Chronic
Stress and Insecurity: If the environment is emotionally cold,
overcrowded, or with frequent staff turnover, the child may
experience prolonged stress, hindering brain development and
leading to anxious or withdrawn behaviour.
- Behavioural
Problems: Lack of skilled guidance in peer interactions can
reinforce aggression or lead to victimization. The child
may learn negative behaviours from others.
- Weakened
Primary Attachment: If parents are exhausted and quality time at
home is minimal, the vital parent-child bond can be diluted, affecting the
child's core sense of security.
- Health
Issues: Higher exposure to common childhood illnesses in group
settings.
The Crucial Factor - Quality:
A "high-quality" crèche is characterized by:
- Low
child-to-caregiver ratios.
- Warm,
responsive, and trained caregivers.
- A
safe, clean, and stimulating physical environment.
- A
balanced mix of structured activities and free play.
- Positive
communication with parents.
Conclusion:
A crèche is neither inherently good nor bad. It is a powerful
environmental modifier. In optimal conditions, it enriches development and
promotes school readiness. In poor conditions, it can pose risks to emotional
health and behaviour. The educator's role is to observe the child for signs of
either positive preparedness or unresolved stress from their crèche experience
and tailor their support accordingly.
Q4. What are orphanages? What effect do these have on a
child‘s development? Explain.
Introduction:
Orphanages, or Child Care Institutions (CCIs), represent society's traditional
safety net for children without parental care. However, decades of
psychological research have revealed that while they meet basic survival needs,
the institutional environment often inflicts deep wounds on a child's
psychological and social development, making this a critical area of
understanding for any educator.
Meaning of Orphanages:
An orphanage is a long-term residential institution that provides housing,
food, clothing, education, and medical care to children who are orphaned,
abandoned, surrendered, or removed from dysfunctional families. It
operates in loco parentis (in place of parents), aiming to
provide collective care in a group setting.
Effects on Child Development:
Institutional care, especially in traditional, large-scale settings, has
consistently been linked to a cluster of negative outcomes known as "institutional
syndrome."
- Attachment
Disorders: This is the most profound harm. Care is
typically rotational and task-oriented (different staff
for feeding, bathing, schooling). The child misses the consistent, loving,
one-on-one interaction necessary to form a secure attachment,
leading to Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). They may be
indiscriminately affectionate with strangers or unable to form deep bonds.
- Cognitive
and Language Delays: Despite formal schooling, the lack of
responsive, conversational interaction with a dedicated caregiver can
stunt language development and cognitive growth.
Learning may be passive rather than inquisitive.
- Social-Emotional
Deficits: Children may struggle with trust, empathy, and
understanding social boundaries. Relationships can be superficial.
They may exhibit anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and a
pervasive sense of grief and loss.
- Behavioural
Problems: Institutionalised behaviour can include
apathy, lack of initiative, hyperactivity, or aggression. The need to
compete for attention in a group can foster manipulative or withdrawn
behaviours.
- Impaired
Self-Identity: Questions of "Who am I?" and
"Where do I belong?" are acute, leading to identity
confusion and difficulty planning for the future.
The Paradigm Shift:
Recognizing these devastating effects, modern child protection laws (like
India's Juvenile Justice Act) now advocate for family-based
alternatives:
- Family
Reintegration: The first priority is to support and reunite the
child with their biological family if safe.
- Foster
Care: Placing the child in a trained, supportive family
environment.
- Adoption: Providing
a permanent family.
- Small
Group Homes: Transforming large institutions into small,
family-style homes with consistent caretakers.
Conclusion:
While orphanages arise from a charitable intent to provide shelter, their
structural model is antithetical to a child's need for individualized,
attachment-based care. The effects often cascade into the classroom in the form
of learning challenges, emotional dysregulation, and social difficulties. For a
teacher, a child from an institution requires immense patience, explicit
teaching of social-emotional skills, unconditional positive regard, and
advocacy to connect them with nurturing opportunities. The teacher can become a
vital, stable anchor in a life that has known too little stability.